Been saying it for years. If there’s one thing I’ve been blessed with abundantly it’s friendships. Real, celebrate your victories and catch your tears, type of friendships. Friends you can call at all hours of the night to hear them say, “It’s going to be ok, God is good, you’re stronger than you know. I’m on my way.”
In a society that has tried to pin women against each other (which is completely bananas to me) since day 1, I understand that the female support I have is a total blessing. The older I get the more I realize how many women don’t have the female companionship that I have, and a more sobering realization, that I take for granted.
I’m in a group chat with six other women. We do a good job at keeping up with each other’s day to day, send funny gifs, encourage each other in our fitness journeys, send updates on life, blah, blah, blah. But we can very easily fall into a pattern of small talk with short, quick responses because we’re all busy as heck.
I don’t want to live like that. I don’t want to give a fraction of myself to those that matter to me. I want to give my time, counsel, and attention to the people I’ve chosen to walk beside. 100% - not just 10% because I’m busy running around like a chicken with my head cut off doing things that won’t reeeally matter when it’s all said and done.
So today I sent a text challenging us to dig deeper. It was basically “Yo! The support we have for each other is rare, can we, umm, do better? Try harder?” They of course were all for it which instantly sparked a deeper conversation of the things we’re all grateful for. Wayyy more nurturing of a conversation than our regular “How are you?!” “I’m great! You?” “Yey! Glad things are going well!”
So if you’ve made it to the 19th paragraph of this insanely long caption, I challenge you to do the same. I’m a big believer that you get what you give. So dig deeper, try harder, reprioritize and show up. Life is nothing without your people, without connection. No one is going to stand up at your funeral and say “she put in a TON of hours at the office!” or “she was ALWAYS on top of her to-do list. Wow, what an inspiration.” but they WILL speak about the size of your heart, how you were constantly there to listen and that you always knew exactly when to show up with a bottle of red. But only if you take the time to show them. Ya know?